Getting Out In A Bad Relationship
November 20, 2009 by admin
Filed under Relationship Advice
So, you thought you have finally found the ONE.
Someone who has an established career, with stable financial status, responsible, good looking, intelligent, and good-humored person has finally come into your life.
But, just when you thought you’ve finally met the ideal man or woman of your dreams, everything seems to be wrong and complicated. Suddenly, he has lost his job, she went bankrupt, he became careless, and she became paranoid about everything. You try to help your partner in dealing with the issues but it always turns out that he or she’s too good to ask help from anybody-even you.
Still, despite everything you still do almost everything to help your beau without you realizing that he or she slowly drags you into the pit of depression and helplessness they’re in. When you feel that you are no longer healthy, happy, and growing in the relationship, that’s the time when you are trapped in bad relationship.
Being stuck and stranded
It is always hard to end any kind of relationship-especially if it’s a romantic relationship. But, no matter how hard to end something that you thought is precious, you should know when to end a relationship especially if you are well-aware that its not doing you any good.
The signs of the times would probably tell you if you are already being stuck in a bad relationship. Experts agree that the relationship is already bad when the couple is going through unusual periods of disagreement and bitterness that can be evitable in some relationships. You will also know if you are already in the pit of a bad relationship when it involves incessant aggravation and everything-even your partner-seems to be out of your reach.
The main determinant if you are in a bad relationship is the behavior of your partner. You can tell that you are being caught up in a bad relationship if your partner is beyond your reach of communication and comprehension, he or she doesn’t want to make any commitment, doesn’t profess his or her feelings even if there is a sort of commitment or plainly incapable of loving someone else besides him or herself.
Studies also show that in any bad relationship, the couple is often on dissimilar wavelengths that there is almost no common ground and no connection or communication that result to irritation and disappointment.
Since bad relationships usually stem from chronic reciprocation of what one or both partners need, the relationship itself can even damage the self-esteem of the persons involved. Bad relationships are also destructive for persons especially those who have invested so much in their careers for their personal lives since these serve as a perfect breeding ground for rage, bitterness, self-doubt, melancholy, and distress.
Aside from emotional distress, staying in a bad relationship can be hazardous to someone’s health. The most common hazard of bad relationship is the physical harm caused by an abusive partner. In less severe cases, being in a bad relationship can cause tensions and various chemical changes often triggered by so much stress.
Being in a bad relationship reflects so much on the person’s overall health and well-being because it can drain energy, thus, lowering the body’s resistance to illness. The common health hazards of being in a bad relationship include severe headaches, back pains, and stomachaches caused by anger and frustration; insomnia and melancholy caused by emotional distress; and weight problems caused by irregular behavioral patterns and depression.
If couples continue to be in a relationship that is no longer healthy, they will try to find a way to escape from being stuck inside by being alcoholic or drug dependent. Worse, being stuck in an unhealthy relationship can eventually lead to recurrent suicide attempts.
Breaking free
What most people inside relationships do not realize is that the more they try to work things out, things get more and more complicated. This is because both people in the relationship try so hard to pass through the stage without realizing that they are detaching themselves with their respective partners. As a result of this detachment is misunderstanding, incompatibility, and soon enough, falling out of love.
If you are already in a bad relationship that robs you off your freedom to be yourself, the freedom to love other person, and the freedom to get out of an unhealthy and destructive relationship, here are some of the things you can do to recover.
1. Consider your wellness as the first priority in life whether you are in or out of a romantic relationship.
2. Try to be “selfish” at times by focusing on your own needs above all else.
3. Be strong enough to deal with your own problems.
4. Have a positive outlook in life and cultivate whatever positive values you acquired within the relationship.
5. Nurture you spiritual side and try to look for ways or activities that can bring you inner peace.
6. If the relationship was quite traumatic, think of getting professional help or find a support group where you can chare your experiences and the lessons you have learned.
7. Don’t be afraid to fall in love but try to be more cautious next time so you won’t be stuck in a bad relationship.
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PRECISELY!!! I have NOOOO idea what she’s talking about…keep it simple, short and straight WOMAN!!
@Jabes1966 wow, that’s weird.
Divorce and then file for bankruptcy. That's the only way to get rid of the debts.
Bitter at first then eventually better
So what are women’s reciprocating responsibilities to prove that she loves her man? Shouldn’t women sometimes organize surprises for her man?
This video seems to be about the guy “proving his romance” in order to get sex.
How come it’s always men who have to do _______ to instill romance? Neither I nor my wife believe that it is solely the man’s job to charge the air w/romance. Many times she will come home w/a pizza, 6pack, and latest “guys movie” to watch together.
Put your child in the stroller and go down to the library to check out reading groups. Or go to your local rec center and check out team sports, either co-ed, or all girls.
Most rec centers have child care facilities.
Understand something
Man is a walking sex machine.Man wants sex sex sex,a bit romance until he gets bored,sex sex sex
Woman is the opposite,but hey,man must get along if he wants sex.
I wouldnt date you,you ptobably suck at bed.Also your brain is pretty fucked up.
With love and kisses.Goodbye
WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?
The time frame really depends on him.
Was the relationship over before it was actually over?
Does he still talk about her? Does he seem bitter about her?
But give it some time, remember when he's ready for a new relationship and the fact that he likes you, he'll ask you out eventually and like you said no need to rush into things and become a rebound.
I know what you mean I got out of a bad relationship with my ex Jack he treated me bad and it was horrible . He was cheating on me and more
I missed him when I moved to Europe for my work so much I guess I had my heart broken and I missed him more then ever. I met someone new and I was very happy my now husband loves me more then Jack ever did so I have moved on from him but I know what you mean:)
“Neither I nor my wife believe that it is solely the man’s job to charge the air w/romance. Many times she will come home w/a pizza, 6pack, and latest “guys movie” to watch together. ”
You got a good wife man
“meetings taking to my self”
the truth is your not the only one…. most guys are like you.
most relationships end badly so its a good chance your going to be the rebound (which is not that bad)
as far as always being the nice guy that gets hurt im right there with you,,, keep going at it haha your going to find the right girl one day
Hmm.. I would probably talk with him and tell him that you don't see this ever working out. because your not connected anymore to this relationship. But to be honest the only way that you two could break up without hurting eachother is for you to move slowly away from him over time. Quit talking as much,Disagree on a lot of things,Hang out with your friends a lot more. Idk if i really helped. but i hope everything goes your way. and good luck
I hate it everytime I hear from other women that all guys are pigs. I say to them dont let a few bad apples destroy the whole tree. Its so hard to find a girl around here because theres too many assholes with alternative motives. All the girls are scared to date anyone.
by the way, she is cute :p
My ex was not "physically abusive" but he was definitely emotionally and psychologically abusive and 3 some weeks later, I'm STILL feeling the after-effects on the relationship on myself. And like you, I ALSO feel angry and despondent with myself over everything he did to me that I let him do to me (one of those things being my own so-called FRIEND!) I'm angry with myself that I put up with it for so long. I was friends with him a year before dating. I had always thought that if I woman was friends with a guy for a long time before dating, that that would somehow ensure the relationship would be healthy and stable. AS IF! He gave me clues all along the whole entire time I knew him that he wasn't worthy, I just wasn't confident enough in myself to listen/see those clues, ya know!?
But my gutt feeling had even said "don't date this guy. DO NOT DATE THIS GUY" and I wish to God I would've listened to it. I wasted a whole year and a half of my LIFE on this guy!
He robbed me of so much "life", ya know? 
It was the worst relationship I've ever had, times 10!
Girl, like me, you gots to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and put yourself back together. No matter what the guy or anyone else tell you, YOU DID THE RIGHT THING BY LEAVING HIS A@@! You are beautiful and strong. You deserve better than a man that don't treat you right. REMEMBER THAT. Stay strong. Don't go back to him under ANY circumstances. I commend you. It takes alot of gutts to leave an abusive man….of any sorts…..so the fact that you left him speaks VOLUMES. You are strong woman….so continue to stay strong….you will find a great guy someday who cares about you….and so will I!
Cheers! Here's to better men for the both of us in the year 2009!