How do I tell my parents dating older man?
January 27, 2010 by admin
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I am dating someone who is 47 and I am 28. We have been together for over a year and hiding it from family. We are both tired of hiding. How do we approach this?
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just be honest and say you love each other. it will be okay.
Just tell them if this is the love of your life than there is no reason to hide it. Cause I’m tell you right now…a lot of guys your age still have not grown up! and that’s real!
I would do it in a calm manner. Nothing to quick. Just know that there will probably be some bittersweet moments.
Just have them meet him if it’s getting serious. You shouldn’t have to hide him. Just set up a dinner for your family to meet him and then tell them that he is a little older than you, you don’t have to tell them exactly how old he is. Let them judge him by who he is and not by his age. If he treats you well and really loves you then that’s all your parent’s should be worried about. They should want you to be happy and if he makes you happy then they should be ok with who you are dating. Good luck.
You are an adult. Tell them straight out. It’s your love life and you are too old to be acting like a kid. If u love this man/woman than be proud and happy and let ur family know he/she is your soulmate.
tell them in a way in which it is kind of comical and that might take the heat off, for instance, mum and dad i had the same reaction
Just tell them you are dating someone older that you, and that you are very happy. Let them think about it for a second, and then tell them how much older. If they panic, just tell them it is ok and that you are a big girl and can take care of yourself.
Thats weird.
emmy?? i see you are taking my advice about talking to your parents about this.. just be honest open and ask your parents to be happy for you and have your BF take you 4 out to a nice restaurant pay for dinner and look at is as life..not something to be ashamed of..look at it this way..your father get a new golf partner that he is compatible with!!
its nothing to worry about have fun and if you are acting happy about him to your parents,,iam sure thats all they care about and he is a decnt guy ..no hang ups..have dinner in a nice restaurant and have Bf pay ha ha good luck..emmy
YOU ARE AND ADULT
THEY NEED TO KNOW YOU CAN PICK WHO EVER U WANT TO DATE
I AM SURE IF U HAVE BEEN HIDING IT
UR NOT AFTER HIS MONEY LOL
AND IF U ARE READY TO COME OUT ITS NOT LIKE HE IS MARRIED SO GO 4 IT
You approach it with a quick exiting stradegy when things get bad…J/k. You are a mature girl and are fully responsible for all of your decisions. You should not have to hide this from your family. They should understand that you are well capable of making your own choices in life. They should get passed the label of age as you have. I’m sure they will be happy that you have found someone you are happy with, that’s what really matters here. As for breaking the news, just tell your closest relatives and have them spread it around the family. Then at the next family event bring him along. Family is something that will accept you no matter what.
Wait til your 30th birthday, if it’s still alive, you can let everyone know. Just kidding!
Are you both ready to go public? Then go public. People can disapprove of a relationship for a whole host of reasons. Are you worried the relationship won’t withstand the scrutiny of others’ judgment? Don’t worry if you are, it’s probably somewhat natural.
How has your family reacted to your prior relationships? Has your family/his ever been the source of sabotage for any of them, friendships, romances, whatever? Did you know that one of the top five reasons for divorce is your in-laws? Potential in-laws can be really scary, and you are at that age where people expect you to be shopping for life, so their scrutiny is sometimes really horrible.
Don’t just reveal it because you are sick of hiding it, reveal it because you are excited and happy about it and you want others to share in your joy. If your family is a joy-killer for you, always questioning your decisions and your relationships, maybe keep this one under wraps until you are okay with whatever it is that anyone else may say, and evaluate the relationship for yourself as well.
your over 18 and ur legally an adult
its your decision not ur parents
be happy
you owe it to yourself
Im more curious about what the two of you have in common. Obviously you have decided to keep if from your parents for a reason, I mean are you afraid of their reaction? You are both grown adults so they may have their reservations about it but there really isn’t too much they can do about it. If the two of you are happy and he is sincere in his intentions for you then I say go for it! Try not to let the small stuff get you down sugar.
at a good moment where everyone is happy.. bring up the topic but DO NOT throw it at them. be gental its big news so you don’t want to over overwhelm them. take it slow and don’t forget to say how happy you are and how he is such a good guy and all the positive things. oh and don’t make the age difference seem like a big deal its really not.
hope this helps..
ergh hard. very hard. just make sure they know that you’re happy and that it’s what you want. as long as your family is supportive of you and your decisions, they should be supportive of the fact that you’re happy with an older man.
good luck
I had to do this too. It was hard. We had 17 years difference.
We dated for about 6 months before I told my mom.I told my mom first because she is more understanding and layed back.
I told my dad a couple months after that. He was kind of speechless. I just started off by saying I have always made good decisions in the past and you have to trust my decisions now. I really love that person and we have been dating for a while. The reason I waited to tell you was because I wanted to feel out the situation to make sure this was right and now I am confident! He is GREAT!
~~~~IT WILL ALL WORK OUT!!!~~~~
My ex, who is 17 years older, was really great! We dated for 3 1/2 years and we are still best friends. I would never have taken back my time with him!
GOOD LUCK!
Just tell them. Theres not much that they can do at this point. And hopfully they will be supporative!!!!
Goodluck!
If you have been together for a year, and happy, then that’s the risk you will have to take. Live your lives for yourselves and not your family. You may never find a man that loves you or treats you the way this man does. This is what I say about parents of adults. Your parents don’t necessarily have to like the person you choose to be with, but they do need to respect that person and vice versa.
I think you’ll probably be able to find the answer to your dilemma at Lisa Daily’s site, http://www.datingexpert.tv (Plus, there’s a lot of good info there.) She’s the author of two dating books, HOW TO DATE LIKE A GROWN-UP and STOP GETTING DUMPED. It’s one of my favorite sites for dating tips and advice, and the videos are pretty funny.
I’m pretty sure she answers questions that are sent to her, you might try her for an answer to your question.