Keep Your Cool-don’t Allow Anger to Control Your Relationships
December 1, 2009 by admin
Filed under Relationship Advice
If you anger easily, perhaps you need some techniques to <b>Keep Your Cool<b>. How you handle anger is how your children assume adults are supposed to handle anger and thus they use you as a role model.
Look deeply in your heart and discover what you are really mad about? Rarely is the anger about the present incident, but rather unmet needs from the past.
Do you want your children to respect you? Is the underlying need for respect? Do you want people to assume personal responsiblity? Know your limits. Accept what you can’t change and let go of things out of your control.
Here are some ideas that have worked for other parents. Try them and see if you can control your anger rather than let your anger control you.
Ease your tension. Take a walk; listen to music, splash cold water on your face.
Earn small rewards when you make the choice not to become angry.
Phone a friend. It helps to share your concerns and talk things out.
<b>Your example helps your children learn to handle anger. Be a good role model.<b>
Object to the behavior if necessary, but separate the “deed from the doer.”
Use your kitchen timer for “time out” before disciplining.
Remember that everyone makes mistakes, including you and your children.
Count your breaths. Breathe in deep while counting to four. Breathe out while counting to four. Do four times.
Old tapes in your head may be making your reaction more than it should be. Are you angry because of issues in your childhood?
<b>Out of ideas to handle anger? <b>
Consider parenting classes or professional counseling.
Look objectively at the situation. Are you making a mountain out of a molehill? Is it really worth having a heart attack or stroke? This too shall pass.
Controlling angry feelings is a skill that children learn from the people who care for them. There are activities which support our development of self-control. Count to twenty, backwards! We all need to find helpful ways to intervene when anger and frustration overwhelms us or our children.
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*Chuckles* Brilliant comment!
No, he’s ours! Ours, I tell you! Ouuuuuuuuuurs!
Just kidding! There’s plenty of Jake to go round.
If I was your girlfriend and I knew you were a really good guy, I would not let distance get in the way of our relationship and I would definitely try to have a long distance relationship if we couldn't be together, though I wouldn't know if it would work out that way, but if I loved him a lot and knew he was my soulmate, I would try my hardest to make our relationship work out and talk to him as much as possible.
I also think you should try talking things out and planning things out early, like trying to be together or live together and if circumstances come about that might prevent it from happening, so be it. At least you tried to make plans to be together. Things just happen and we can't always have things the way we want it to be. So the best advice I could give you is to try your hardest. Hope things go well between you two. Good luck
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wats the BG song when jp and kieron are talking infront of the arcade plz can somebody tell me
I can’t believe they’re flirting together in the place that Mercedes works at and I can’t believe that JP told her the truth about them
Oh Jp, why would you tell Mercedes? You dork!
Damn, Kris! How can you walk in those heels without killing yourself?
yeah I think it builds character and also prepares you for real life situations and experiences when you're older and in a more serious relationship!
Mercy, honey. It’s called love. Most people risk everything for love, for happiness. Maybe Everyone. Love is worth the risk.
LOL at the milk and cereal!
best advice is to really just get some more activities, if you dont do anything you should pick something new up.
it really is important to grow outside your relationship. something to where you can divide your attention if you ever need the release.
so set aside some alone time with the girls
or read a book, yoga,etc but do it alone.
it will really make your relationship stronger, and better yourself as an individual
Absolutely, your relationship with your children is a key factor in how they view other adults, the trust they develop, and the respect hey will have for others.
Since we are with our children each, and every day we have the time, and opportunity to instill, and model those morals, and values we would like to be part of their character.
Children/young adults at some point in their lives are still going to make choices their parents may not always agree with, but overall they will have had a constant message of what is right, and wrong based on their families values and beliefs.
The old saying "quality time", well it takes a large "quantity of time" to get that quality.
I love the conversation between JP and Steph; they’ve known each other so long through Craig and now Steph is being so supportive of him, simply because she understands.
Derek and Allyson
if its a little sister it seems more protective and could fit in nicly to a story. All three of them just doesnt seem right, and there are to many books about just one guy and a group of mates.
thats what i think =)
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ugh im bad too but i think they are like second cousins